This is a positive blog believe it or not. I was just chatting with a girlfriend. We've never been terribly close or anything, but when we do talk, we do so rather frankly. She's going through some similar problems as I am... people trying to bring her down and mislead her rather than lift her up and encourage her. She's newly pregnant with a great boyfriend, soon to leave our tiny hometown for bigger pastures with him. Things couldn't be going better for her. Yet even her bestest of friends seem to be allowing their selfishness and jealousy interfere with their ability to be happy for and support her.
Onto the point I want to make... the relationship women should have with one another exists between this woman and myself. A few years ago, she and I were nothing more than mere acquaintances who shared mutual friends. I wasn't aware that a man I'd been involved with had also been involved with her at one point. She was much more interested in him than I was, but he seemed more interested in me than he was in her. Nonetheless, when he and I were through, he tried to come back around and I gave him the brush-off. He ran to her. They did hook up. It sort of hurt my feelings thinking he was that shallow, but I moved on nonetheless. He didn't respect her or treat her well. So she moved on too. We never bashed him or anything. I think we both still talk to him from time to time. The point is... that event never got in the way of the budding friendship we had with each other. It never even seemed to occur to either one of us to allow it to get in the way, be angry over it, or dislike each other for it. We're grown women. Now we're friends. I couldn't be happier for her. I hope she knows I respect her merely for being an adult. What an admirable quality. I'm glad I'm not alone in my pursuit to show other women that they don't need to compete or hate each other, even when a man sets you both up to do just that.
